One heart at a time
Knowledge is wisdom, and the intensity of pain can be lessened with the support and understanding of someone who has already walked a similar path.
Grief has been a big part of my own life and more intense in recent years. When I was 23 years of age, my grandfather passed away age 24 mum passed away to cancer at 25 I had an ectopic pregnancy when I was 26 my dad passed suddenly, and by the age of 34, I had lost another ectopic pregnancy and miscarried twins. At 35 I had my four beautiful children, and I also lost four pregnancies, I got through these times slowly, but what I struggled with significantly was the loss of my marriage in 2016, to a man who was my best friend for the best part of 28 years. We separated twice, and for me, this made the process more emotionally challenging. After the second and final separation, I travelled through a place alone, I was full of uncertainty, and it was unfamiliar to the life I had known for so long. It was like going through a dark and scary forest where the trees were tall, I couldn’t see the sky above them, and this was a path where there were no short -cuts to take to get out into the sunshine quicker. So I walked this path one step at a time, one day at a time, and at times I needed to pause, just to stop to have a look around then start to move again, always get moving again, walking towards the sunlight that I could see poking through the trees right at the end of the path, this gave me hope.
My thoughts then turned to all the women who were going through a similar experience, the woman who did not have the training and knowledge that I had, I thought” my god how are they getting through this”? That’s when I knew that it was my duty, calling whatever you want to call it, to help other people travelling down a similar path and I know there are many of you out there. I was fortunate in a way because my kids were older, (3 were adults at the time) financially I was ok, and my X and I were amicable, and still, the entire grief experience at that time was raw, real and incredibly sad and painful.
So now I am thankfully out of the woods and in the sunshine on the other side of pain I experienced due to my marriage ending and I can now be here fully and offer some of the wisdom I have learnt and discovered moving through the stages of grief.
Flourish group will be nurturing, supportive and non-judgemental, recognising that each woman will be travelling along their unique path and at different stages. I will meet you where you are at with respect. At times we can get stuck in the anger or denial for example and we cant seem to move forward this group will give you skills you need to put the pain of the past relationship behind you.