Parenting skills and tools do make a difference.
For 5 years I ran a 9 week course for parents called P.E.T parent effectiveness training. I no longer run it as a 9 week course but I design the knowledge and content of the course to individual family needs. unfortunately not all parents or caregivers can spare three hours per week.
Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) is a parenting course that is suitable for Parents, Grandparents and Caregivers. It provides support and positive parenting tools that can be applied in real life. And it has been designed to assist all kinds of families, including separated and blended families.
Created by the award-winning psychologist and three-time Nobel Peace Prize Nominee, Dr. Thomas Gordon in 1962, this pioneering parenting course has already helped millions of parents around the world. It is run by qualified instructors, and uses a non-punitive approach—no naughty corner, no threats or use of power, no punishment and no praise—as a way of positive parenting.
Whether you’re a parent, grandparent or caregiver of a teenager or toddler, you will have experienced how challenging—and even overwhelming—parenting can be. There is no instruction manual for children. And as a parent, knowing what to do is not always automatic or instinctive.
Learn effective communication skills
Parenting Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) teaches communication skills to parents that are proven to work. And any parent, grandparent or caregiver can learn these communication and conflict-resolution skills with Dr. Gordon’s P.E.T. program, taught by a certified P.E.T. Instructor.
When you use these skills, you’ll be amazed at the dramatic improvement in your family relationships, as well as the other relationships in your life.
Will your job as a parent no Longer exist?
Parents usually parent the same way their parents did, and lets face it our kids live in a very different world that we did. Yelling, threatening,demanding, taking things away from your child until they listen are all forms of power and as a parent a young child you are able to provide the child with what they need and have the power to take that away is they misbehave, What happens when your child is 16 and can get their own needs met, all the threats demands wont work any more because you have been sacked as the parent. Learning to communicate effectively with your child is a crucial part of having a healthy and ongoing relationship with them.
Benefits from learning the skills
Your children will:
- feel free and safe to discuss their problems and concerns instead of withdrawing
- learn self-discipline, self-control and an inner sense of personal responsibility.
- Learn how to become emotionally intelligent.
- Learn how to solve their own problems
Your family will:
- learn how to work with each other instead of against each other
- experience fewer angry outbursts and more problem-solving
- participate together in setting guidelines so everyone feels motivated to comply with them
- have fewer power struggles—less tension, less resentment, more fun, more peace, and more love.
Learning how to communicate to your children is far more crucial than it has ever been, why? because of social media, phones, facebook, snapchat etc are all forms of communication that kids can and do access to talk to each other, what happens on the school ground is not left there, it continues in the privacy of your child’s bedroom, if an incident occurred at school it can blow up to mass proportions within an hour something that should of been left and forgotten is now a major talking point in your child’s social media circles and whats being said is totally untrue, and taken out of context your child is now being bullied, feeling helpless and overwhelmed and they don’t know how to talk to you about it. As most parents they would like to support your child through this, but can feel just as helpless as their child.
By learning the skills you will learn how to:
- talk to your children so that they listen to you
- listen to your children so they feel genuinely understood
- resolve conflicts and problems in your family so that no one ‘loses’ and problems stay solved
- troubleshoot family problems and know which skills to use to solve them.
- Who owns the problem?
- Active and passive listening skills
- Modifying the environment
- Steps to assertiveness
- Problem solving for fairness using brainstorming and cooperation
- Family conflict resolution (‘no-lose’ method)
- Child-child conflicts – what to do?
- Dealing with the inevitable ‘values conflicts’
Children deserve to have a place to feel safe, to be able to be expressive and authentic, that place should be at home with their family.