Are you Separated or Divorced – Are you still grieving for what you lost?
When a couple has a separation then grief will follow, and it’s ok not to be ok, and to travel through at your pace. Grief is a healing process, just as surgery is to heal the physical body, pain can heal the emotional body. Its a deep emotional response to loss or change
Grief is a natural process; it’s a healing process, and it can be a transformational process; it’s transformed my life.
Grief is felt when the deep love has become disconnected, its become broken,
Learn how to BE with the pain & sadness and then how to move forward gently…. a step by step process through the difficulty and the beauty of the five stages. To stay present with yourself, accepting where you are at, without self-judgment and further unnecessary pain and suffering.
Knowledge is wisdom, and the intensity of grief can be lessened with the support and understanding of someone who has already walked a similar path.
After being married for 26 years and having four children together, I to experience a separation/divorce, and it was incredibly painful at the time.
My thoughts then turned to all the women who were going through a similar experience, the woman who did not have the training and knowledge that I had, I thought” my god how are they getting through this”? That’s when I knew that it was my duty, calling whatever you want to call it, to help other people travelling down a similar path and I know there are many of you out there.
I am officially out of the dark woods and in the sunshine on the other side of the grief, and I can now be here fully and offer some of the wisdom I have learnt and discovered moving through the stages of grief.
The symptoms of grief are usually in 5 different stages ( I generally say as they can vary for different people) are all required and are normal: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and finally acceptance.
The body always knows what to do to move through the different stages and are all necessary and essential. I found after my painful journey with grief to follow my body to flow with it and at times to get support from certain friends and having grief counselling.
I found when I resisted what my body needs to do in order to complete the process, it can linger, and it may become a longer and harder process to move through. Imagine a flowing river, and you can either walk against the energy of the water. It’s difficult, time-consuming and takes more energy leaving you feeling exhausted or flow with it and somewhat accept the ride; we always have a choice.
Learn how to overcome Grief and create your ‘new normal’
People are usually overwhelmed with even the day- to- day running of their life when going through grief so asking someone what can I do may be too much, it’s a time to just jump in and help your loved one, do the dishes, pick up the kids for them, make a meal, the less pressure they have at this time the better for them.
There are gifts in a loss. When a painful loss first occurs, it is impossible to imagine that anything good could come from it. With time and perspective, however, you may be able to see something positive. People may be able to appreciate good times more than ever before. Or you may have an increased respect for your strength and resilience. Most importantly, you can better empathize with others as a result of your experience.
Everyone grieves in his or her way and in his or her own time. Some people recover from grief and resume normal activities within six months, though they continue to feel moments of sadness. Others may feel better after about a year, and sometimes people continue to grieve for years without seeming to improve or find relief even temporarily.
Diane has the genuine ability to express empathy and compassion and to meet the client where they are at in their grieving process.