My Role as a Couples Therapist
I AM HIGHLY DISCREET AND WILL SUPPORT YOU THROUGHOUT EACH STEP OF THE COUPLES / MARRIAGE COUNSELLING PSYCHOTHERAPY PROCESS, TO HELP YOU TO:
- Support and listen to each other
- Make decisions and develop problem-solving skills
- Communicate effectively
- Change negative patterns
- Understand what each partner’s needs are and how to meet them
- Know values in a relationship
- Become more present in a relationship
- Understand the masculine and feminine roles within your relationship
- Increase intimacy
- Create a life plan together
- Know how your childhood could be affecting your marriage
WHAT HAPPENS IN COUPLES / MARRIAGE COUNSELLING, PSYCHOTHERAPY?
Both partners have an opportunity to speak and disclose their view on what is their issue in the marriage/relationship. Each partner will be listened to equally with respect and understanding in a non judgemental environment. After the initial session as a couple each partner may be seen individually, then come back as a couple.
Why individually? When one person makes a commitment to another there also needs to be a level of understanding that the person chosen does have a past and past events and situations do determine the present. This means that the reason why we have issues in the relationship may come from past situations and with one or two individual and confidential sessions, awareness and change may occur and this can be the start of a new and different relationship for you and your partner.
Having a happy marriage is like having a mechanically sound car, if you give it a regular tune up, make sure its needs are met like oil and water then it should run smoothly for many miles to come.
However if your marriage is neglected, on the “to do” list then you may become stuck, stranded on the side of the road. It wasn’t given the little tune ups along the way and now its possibly unfixable; You get out of your relationship what you put in. Yes, its work and it may be difficult to come to a stranger to help you. But with commitment and my expertise, your relationship could be everything you want it to be.
“Pearls don’t lie on the sea-shore if you want one you must dive for it”