What does “being happy” mean to you? We all want to be happy, but we don’t really understand what it is or how to achieve it.
For me, being happy means feeling peaceful; all is well in my world. Let’s take a look at a couple in a relationship. If they get along well, communicate effectively, and their needs are being met, they support each other, have fun together, and authentically enjoy being together, then I’m sure this is a ‘happy’ couple. Life is good.
Unhappiness may manifest if the couple yells, experiences frustration or anger, feels that their needs are not being met or understood, or has no idea how to communicate effectively with each other. This doesn’t sound fun, but it’s very common in many relationships and can cause the opposite of happiness.
What is a Happy Marriage?
After all the challenges life may have in store, couples can still feel happy because they work as a team, they compromise, they have each other’s backs, and they know how to make each other a priority.
A marriage or two people in an intimate relationship must be open to the idea that they are constantly changing and growing as individuals and, in turn, as a couple. Let’s face it: Life happens. We become parents, we lose a job, we have financial worries, and the relationship becomes repetitive and unfulfilling. The couple can begin to walk on separate paths, still seeing each other but becoming more and more distant with each passing day.
Relationships are constantly changing and we need to learn to change with them, I say to my clients that being in a satisfying and happy marriage is learning how to dance together, the music of life changes then so should the dance and a couple can learn how to do this together. This is where marriage/couples Counselling can help to provide tools and understanding about yourself and your partner so you can learn how to dance well together. No one teaches a couple how to do this, we learn from our parents and hopefully, their role modelling provided you with enough wisdom to be happy, unfortunately, the majority of the time this is not correct and a little guidance and education may be necessary.
If you would like support with your marriage to be happy and satisfying then contact me for a one-hour appointment, after hours appointments are also available. Or you can book one of our marriage packages
