Before Social Media
Today’s world is very different from what I grew up in. We had one phone in the dining room in the house. There was no privacy when I spoke to my friends or boyfriend.
If we disagreed with someone, it usually stayed within a small circle. We could go home, cry to our mum, and head back to school the next day, and the disagreement would usually be forgotten, and things would return to normal.
With Social Media
Today, you disagree; by the time you go home, a substantial amount of the school and friends of friends are aware that something is happening, then that night, more people know about it and by now, it has been blown out of proportion. They are saying things about you that are not true, but the power of social media is so strong and righteous that even if you could say something, you are made to be wrong, a slut, a bully etc.
Things don’t return to normal when you return to school the following day. This disagreement has gained momentum. You get horrible looks from people you thought were your friends, but they are no longer there for you. You feel alone. Your safety, connection, and security needs are not being met, yet you need to go back into that environment (school) every day.
Expectations of kids today are higher, to get good grades to have the perfect body to have material things, and when they can’t meet these expectations, their biggest enemy is themselves, they abuse themselves emotionally and physically daily, how can we have high self-esteem if they are beating themselves up regularly.
How do Teenagers recover from this?
I am seeing so many more kids with anxiety, depression, cutting and the suicide rate is climbing in younger people, this is a worry and needs to stop. Teens need to know how to build resilience and self-esteem to learn to be like Teflon, where negative comments don’t stick and cause lifelong pain.
What are the benefits of Therapy
• They are heard, and their needs are understood
• They learn about healthy boundaries.
• They learn to say no or yes authentically and trust themselves.
• They learn about body image
• How to understand and deal with negative thoughts.
• What’s their place in the family and the world
• What is their real identity? Who are they?
• Leave baggage of the past behind so as not to carry it into the future.
• And more.
Imagine having this awareness and learning these tools when you were a teen.
Contact me today to start helping your teen.
